Think You’re Dating A Lying Liar? Here Are 5 Terrific Tips To Help You Discover The Truth
Monday, April 7th, 2008By Conner O’Seanery You’ve met a guy with the eyes of an angel, a smile that makes Ryan Seacrest’s grill look like a barbecue pit, a tongue of sweet silver, and a set of abs that could grate — and melt — a slab of Gouda. He’s outgoing, and going places. Best of all, he says he wants you to come along for the ride. He can talk the talk, and you love what you’re hearing. You feel his irresistible tug pulling you off your feet … Whoa, honey, put on the brakes! Not to throw a bucket of cold water on your hottie, but how do you know your guy is dishing the truth? After all, the most attractive and outgoing people tend to be the most effective liars — especially when the pressure’s on. Is your man displaying the tell-tale signs of deception in the way he talks? Not sure? Then read on to discover whether you should leap head-over-heels into his arms … or keep your feet planted firmly on the ground. 5 Tips for Spotting the Verbal Slips of a Liar 1. Expansion & Contraction: A liar tends to expand contractions. “I wasn’t up all night surfing those triple-X websites” becomes “I was not up all night surfing those triple-X websites,” with an indignant look thrown in for good measure. Or “I didn’t call you because I was busy reading The Bible” becomes “I did not call you because I was busy reading The Bible.” This liar thinks his high-falutin’ King’s English will convince you he’s telling the truth. But if that ain’t the way he usually talks, somethin’ ain’t right. He could be hiding some dirty laundry — or dirty Internet habits. 2. Pause and Insert Here: A liar may pause and insert lots of odd, non-word sounds into his speech to fill the uncomfortable silence: “Ah, I know I should have called, but, er, I couldn’t tear myself from my, um, mother’s side. Oh, she’s been really sick lately and, um, and I … duh.” Ah, er, um, oh and sometimes duh are this liar’s vowels. 3. Clumsy Is as Clumsy Does: A liar can be as clumsy with his words as former president Gerald Ford was with his footwork. Mistakes in grammar, verb tenses and other train-of-thought derailments might indicate deception. Or they might indicate he holds the current Office of President. Its just so hard to tell nowadays. 4. Listen Carefully: A liar tends to use fewer first-person words such as “I” or “my” in his speech and writing. Using a text analysis program, Dr. James Pennebaker of the University of Texas and Dr. Dianne Berry of SMU discovered certain language patterns can predict when someone’s hiding the truth. Emotional words like “hurt” and “angry” are used less frequently when a person’s shoveling manure from a sitting position, as are cognitive words such as “understand” or “realize.” So, grab your tape recorder and start the interrogation! 5. What’s in a Name?: A liar might use pronouns instead of actual names, hoping to add a bit of emotional distance to his lie. Of course, if your guy always dwells in a vapor of distraction, the lack of names might be par for the course. Conner O’Seanery is a self-admitted serial liar and an expert on detecting deception in any situation. Author of You Won’t Get Fooled Again: More Than 101 Brilliant Ways to Bust Any Bald-Faced Liar (Even If the Liar is Lying Beside You!) and You Won’t Get Fooled at Work Again: 40 Timely Tips for Recognizing Deception in the Workplace, O’Seanery is a popular media guest whose insights have been featured on City TV’s Breakfast Television, Global Television’s NewsHour, CBC Radio, Westwood One Radio Network, USA Radio Network and hundreds of radio stations. His books have been featured in the New York Post, National Post, Seattle Times, Toronto Star, Ottawa Citizen and other newspapers. Conner is also a respected speaker who uses a blend of quick wit and well-earned wisdom to entertain as much as inform audiences. To download free excerpts from You Won’t Get Fooled Again and You Won’t Get Fooled at Work Again visit Conner’s website at http://TheSerialLiar.com Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Conner_O’Seanery http://EzineArticles.com/?Think-Youre-Dating-A-Lying-Liar?-Here-Are-5-Terrific-Tips-To-Help-You-Discover-The-Truth&id=426325 phentermine free online consultation phentermine 37.5 without a prescription phentermine online dr phentermine hcl no prescription